WHAT IS BEAUTY?

During my short life I’ve heard many people making comments about appearances of others.

‘How could he want her, she’s not even pretty’,

or

‘Have you noticed she’s lost weight? She’s so much prettier now!’

or

‘This guy is really ugly, I doubt he’ll ever find someone’.

Such things. And I would be very happy if I could say that this doesn’t happen anymore because I’m no more in the age group of 13 year olds, but the truth is, adults often do this even more than children.

Since I was young, people have been telling me that I should be a model. Not everyone, obviously, but many adults have come to me and have melted over my ‘beauty’. At first I took this advice to heart and I really desired to participate in modeling competitions. I wore lots of make-up, I tried to make myself look older than I actually was.

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I still have no clue how I managed to look this old when I was literally TWELVE. (And also, that car’s not ours, it belonged to a friend and we borrowed it for this little photo shoot, hah.)

Now I’m eighteen and people assume I’m fourteen.

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Well, I can’t blame them. But I DO blame these freaking cold winters in Czechia!!

The thing is, I’m really happy I didn’t gor for this model thing in the end. My attitude towards the whole concept of beauty has radically changed over the years and now I really don’t want to be the example of ‘the standard of beauty’, I would call it.

Because everytime someone has told me I should be a model, there’s been this question bothering me over and over again:

‘Why should I be a model and others shouldn’t?’

Why do we say such things only to some girls but not to others? What is the difference between us, really?

When I look at photo-models of 21st century, it seems to me like most of them look the same. I guess they just have symmetrical faces and they’re skinny and those who apply to these two measures have the right to become models?

What makes this girl:

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prettier than others?

To me, people who are usually considered to be ‘ugly’ or ‘not so pretty’ are very beautiful. Because they are interesting. They’re not symmetrical, they might not be the skinniest, they have some little ‘faults’ – and that’s what makes these people so magical.

I think I’m pretty (I believe in confidence!) but honestly, in my opinion I’m just one of the less interesting ones. There are so many people out there who are beautiful as heck and nobody appreciates it because they don’t look the same as others.

And now let’s think a bit for a moment: What is beauty, really?

Is beauty our appearance? Is it the way our physical body is formed, or is it something more?

Because to me, the true beauty lies in completely different aspects.

When we look at a picture of somebody, we can see only their body, sometimes only their face. How do we even decide if this person is pretty or not? How can we know?

We don’t know the way they smile. The way they look at you, we don’t know their voice, their scent, their style of walking, the sound of their laugh, the way they look when they scowl. And if we miss these crucial informations, how can we possibly know if we like this person or not?

The woman above might be frowning all the time, she might be mean and annoyed by everyone and everything. If we met a person like this, would we say she’s pretty even if she looked like this woman? Because, in my view, we would see her in a very different light than if she was smiling.

I think my mum is beautiful. And not because she’s my mum, but because of the way she behaves, because of the way she looks when she thinks, when she’s pouting or when she’s laughing. These are the things that make people beautiful.

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Our personality makes us beautiful. And as symmetrical and skinny as we might be, we will never be as beautiful as loving people with their hearts full of love.

Once I met a woman who didn’t look like a model, actually she was nearly 50. I spent some time with her and I saw her talking, laughing, I got to know her more and more. And she was so beautiful. She really was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met in my entire life. And I can’t explain. Because people must see for themselves, they must meet this person in order to realise how beautiful she is.

And also, photos can be very misleading. It all depends on the angle they are taken from, doesn’t it? You can go from this:

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to this:

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And it doesn’t even take much time. Different angle, different camera, different light, different expression, no make-up and voilà, there you have it.

Beauty is only a matter of the way we look at things. All people are beautiful. We shouldn’t criticize other people for their appearances – appearance is not everything, after all, and I don’t see a reason why we should care about the way other people look.

Also, the fact that we don’t fancy someone doesn’t mean that there aren’t people out there who aren’t interested in him/her. If we’re not attracted to somebody, alright then, but that doesn’t mean that these people are ugly. It just means they’re not our type.

Please, let’s appreciate the beauty of everyone everywhere, because every single person is beautiful when they smile.

Denisa x

11 Comments Add yours

  1. nerdoverseas says:

    This is my favourite post on your blog so far!
    I too find the concept of beauty kind of ridiculous, at least in the mainstream understanding of the word. I think beauty is just too subjective to actually tell you something about a person.
    Lately I have been hearing things (not about me, just someone I know) such as: “she’s so pretty, she would make a good waitress” and “of course they will hire you, you are pretty” and “they won’t fire her because she is pretty and therefore makes them more money at the bar”. Every time I hear that I just get so offended – to me this just doesn’t make much sense. Whether a person if pretty or not (and, yeah, WHAT IS beauty anyway?!) does not define if they are a good bartender, does it?
    For me, beauty means personality. I consider someone beautiful when I see their personality leaking through. When you see someone smile, be kind, be brave. That’s when you start to realize they have gorgeous eyes – because you see the warmth of their personality in them.

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    1. Exactly! I agree with everything you’ve written. The general concept of beauty is just stupid, you never know how beautiful the person is until you encounter them and get to know their personality.

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  2. Dieter says:

    Super written I enjoyed reading, well done

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  3. BonfireMom says:

    Absolutely lovely post. Just what I needed on a full Sunday English morning. There is beauty in everything!

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    1. Thank you! Yes, there is. 🙂

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  4. Natalie K. says:

    I read this post a week ago and I’ve been thinking about it ever since, analysing all the aspects of it and also thinking what I shall write as a reply. I comment on people quite often, whether it’s just on the street or seeing them in series/film/whatever or I know them personally. I say that “they are pretty” or that “I like them” most of the time. I never say “they are ugly”, though. I don’t believe someone could ever be ugly. I agree with your words – beauty is such a fragile and subjective matter and it can be judged only and only by ourselves. Therefore when I see someone whose appearance I don’t like, I say “they’re not my type”, because this person could be the most beautiful person for someone else in this world.
    Beauty is defined by what MOST PEOPLE like, but can we even call it a definition?
    To be honest, these beauty competitions (such as MissFace or whatever, haha) are just really confusing and not accurate. Why are we looking for the most beautiful person in the first place? Because, let me tell you, sometimes the winner isn’t even the most beautiful for me anyway! Sometimes I like the best the girl/guy who isn’t even in the top ten!
    And therefore no one has the right to judge people by their appearance. Yes, this we tell everyone over and over again, but it still happens. And although we shouldn’t worry about those rude words because “they don’t matter”, they still hurt…
    This got long and messy very quickly and I got kind of emotional writing this comment and still have a lot to say, but I just wanted you to know that this post brightened up my day and week (and probably my whole life) and I so enjoyed reading it. Keep up the good work, I know you will. xx

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    1. Thank you so much!!! I’m soo glad this made an impact on you. I agree with everything you say, everyone is beautiful in their own way!

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    2. Marek Volf says:

      I also didn’t comment immediately. Firstly, for the complexity of topic. Secondly, due to lovely smile here on the left that Cheshire Cat could be envious of. Makes me feel like like on “I laugh therefore I am” blog. 😀

      Beauty is not affectation. 🙂
      Beauty can be projection of our minds, sometimes miles away from some objective criteria. We can meet physically beautiful persons, but if they prove to be villian, than they become ugly in our eyes.

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  5. rupalgarg says:

    Well said.
    Beauty is there in everything. You must have eyes to see them.
    Beauty is something which can not be explained on the basis of how you look or what you wear.
    Great post.

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