During my short life I’ve heard many people making comments about appearances of others.
‘How could he want her, she’s not even pretty’,
‘Have you noticed she’s lost weight? She’s so much prettier now!’
‘This guy is really ugly, I doubt he’ll ever find someone’.
Such things. And I would be very happy if I could say that this doesn’t happen anymore because I’m no more in the age group of 13 year olds, but the truth is, adults often do this even more than children.
Since I was young, people have been telling me that I should be a model. Not everyone, obviously, but many adults have come to me and have melted over my ‘beauty’. At first I took this advice to heart and I really desired to participate in modeling competitions. I wore lots of make-up, I tried to make myself look older than I actually was.
I still have no clue how I managed to look this old when I was literally TWELVE. (And also, that car’s not ours, it belonged to a friend and we borrowed it for this little photo shoot, hah.)
Now I’m eighteen and people assume I’m fourteen.
Well, I can’t blame them. But I DO blame these freaking cold winters in Czechia!!
The thing is, I’m really happy I didn’t gor for this model thing in the end. My attitude towards the whole concept of beauty has radically changed over the years and now I really don’t want to be the example of ‘the standard of beauty’, I would call it.
Because everytime someone has told me I should be a model, there’s been this question bothering me over and over again:
‘Why should I be a model and others shouldn’t?’
Why do we say such things only to some girls but not to others? What is the difference between us, really?
When I look at photo-models of 21st century, it seems to me like most of them look the same. I guess they just have symmetrical faces and they’re skinny and those who apply to these two measures have the right to become models?
What makes this girl:
prettier than others?
To me, people who are usually considered to be ‘ugly’ or ‘not so pretty’ are very beautiful. Because they are interesting. They’re not symmetrical, they might not be the skinniest, they have some little ‘faults’ – and that’s what makes these people so magical.
I think I’m pretty (I believe in confidence!) but honestly, in my opinion I’m just one of the less interesting ones. There are so many people out there who are beautiful as heck and nobody appreciates it because they don’t look the same as others.
And now let’s think a bit for a moment: What is beauty, really?
Is beauty our appearance? Is it the way our physical body is formed, or is it something more?
Because to me, the true beauty lies in completely different aspects.
When we look at a picture of somebody, we can see only their body, sometimes only their face. How do we even decide if this person is pretty or not? How can we know?
We don’t know the way they smile. The way they look at you, we don’t know their voice, their scent, their style of walking, the sound of their laugh, the way they look when they scowl. And if we miss these crucial informations, how can we possibly know if we like this person or not?
The woman above might be frowning all the time, she might be mean and annoyed by everyone and everything. If we met a person like this, would we say she’s pretty even if she looked like this woman? Because, in my view, we would see her in a very different light than if she was smiling.
I think my mum is beautiful. And not because she’s my mum, but because of the way she behaves, because of the way she looks when she thinks, when she’s pouting or when she’s laughing. These are the things that make people beautiful.
Our personality makes us beautiful. And as symmetrical and skinny as we might be, we will never be as beautiful as loving people with their hearts full of love.
Once I met a woman who didn’t look like a model, actually she was nearly 50. I spent some time with her and I saw her talking, laughing, I got to know her more and more. And she was so beautiful. She really was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met in my entire life. And I can’t explain. Because people must see for themselves, they must meet this person in order to realise how beautiful she is.
And also, photos can be very misleading. It all depends on the angle they are taken from, doesn’t it? You can go from this:
And it doesn’t even take much time. Different angle, different camera, different light, different expression, no make-up and voilà, there you have it.
Beauty is only a matter of the way we look at things. All people are beautiful. We shouldn’t criticize other people for their appearances – appearance is not everything, after all, and I don’t see a reason why we should care about the way other people look.
Also, the fact that we don’t fancy someone doesn’t mean that there aren’t people out there who aren’t interested in him/her. If we’re not attracted to somebody, alright then, but that doesn’t mean that these people are ugly. It just means they’re not our type.
Please, let’s appreciate the beauty of everyone everywhere, because every single person is beautiful when they smile.